This morning I read an interesting article on a blog. It was a link that got shared on my personal Facebook account and it intrigued me enough for me to click through. It was about the pressure of the teenage years and what someone that is the same age as me would tell her 14 year old self if she got the chance.
And it got me thinking about my weight loss journey and what I would tell myself…
#1 – That as a teenager I wasn’t fat
Just because there was a girl in my class that was super skinny (and always would be) due to entering the world as a premature baby, that in real life few of us actually look like that.
Here I am aged 10 and back then I thought I was fat:
#2 – You shouldn’t measure yourself based on other people
When you’re at school you often end up sharing how much you weigh and it’s normal that we can be the same waist measurement, yet all weigh a different amount. Some of us have muscle, some of us are tall and some of us carry more water than others.
I remember doing the weigh ins at Slimming World for a few months and getting to see what everyone weighed and couldn’t believe the difference between us when we wore the same sized clothes!
#3 – Once your clothes get tight do something about it
All of a sudden you realise that you’ve gained 7 stone more than what you want to be. You didn’t just put on 100 pounds over night; it was a gradual weight gain. In hindsight as soon as my clothes became tight I should have done something about it, not let it spiral out of control that 100 pounds becomes such a great amount of weight to shift.
#4 – Learn to do some sit ups
When I reflect on my teenage years I always thought I was fat (I would love to be that size now!) yet I wasn’t and I just had a flabby belly and a round of sit ups everyday rather than going on a diet would have had a much better impact on me and my body!
#5 – Only Have One McDonalds
What can I say other than to say that I love a McDonalds. I have eaten them from a small age and have never grown out of them. Even now if I didn’t have kids I would still head there for the Big Mac.
But back when I was at my fattest I had no off switch and would easily put away two meals. Now reflecting if I had just one and had not been greedy (like I had done when I was originally thin) then I wouldn’t have a weight problem.
#6 – If you can’t say no then don’t bulk buy!
One of my guilty moments from getting fat was being greedy and if something is available that I like then I will feast on it until it is gone. I remember the big boxes of broken biscuits from Aldi and that Dominic & I could finish a massive box in a couple of days. Rather shameful really!!!!
#7 – Moaning won’t cure the problem
I remember looking in the mirror at myself on the way on holiday. I wasn’t as big as I soon became. In fact I was about three stone less, but I remember looking at myself in the mirror and realising how fat I had become and that in my combats I looked like I had four tyres in the stomach area.
That was just before I headed out to Cuba on an all inclusive holiday and I put on so much weight that on the return trip, my once loose combats wouldn’t fasten properly.
I just wish I had told myself to do something about it instead of letting it go on for years.
#8 – The soup diets won’t cure the problem
Of course if you are at the end of your weight loss journey and you just have the last 3 pounds to lose and no matter what you do it never goes, then do it. But for the rest of us the cabbage soup diet (and similar ones) will not solve the weight loss problem. Either now, of in the future!
#9 – A pound at a time is fine
I remember joining weight loss clubs and everyone else (or it felt like it) were losing 3-4 pounds a week. And there I am with another pound off. A pound just seems like such a small amount and you never really think of it in the full picture.
The full picture = that 52 pounds a year and the ability to lose over 100 pounds in two years is rather special. And slow weight loss usually means that the weight will stay off.
#10 – Don’t give up after 3 days
The statistics show that many people give up on their diet in the first week. From this you have to learn that you need to stick to it and then the results will pay off. And make sure you’re not following an extreme diet because extreme diets end up making you feel miserable and then the results often end up with you gaining twice as much afterwards.
#11 – Obesity and bikinis don’t go together
I was about a British size 14 when I wore a bikini on the beach. But living in the Algarve I am amazed in the summer months how many people with BMI’s of 35 and up are wondering about in bikinis. When you’re fat its really not a good look to be wondering around with all your flab hanging around.
#12 – People will think that you’re pregnant
It always used to upset me when people thought I was pregnant. But it wasn’t their fault as I actually looked like I was pregnant! I remember waiting for a plane to go to Barcelona with Dominic when the Easy Jet guy asked me how many weeks I was as I assume he was checking to see if I was allowed to fly or not. I bit his head off and stormed onto the plane!
I must have had this happen to me a handful of times when I was obese. The reason was probably down to me carrying the majority of my weight around my stomach area!
For me following a healthy diet and enjoying my food has helped me to lose weight and I often wonder if I had listened to my own advice many years ago whether I would have ended up obese in the first place.
So, over to you what would you tell your fat self?